My parents expect me to be a virgin when I get married. Can this be proven? Sophia, 20
Sophia, proving the virginity of daughters has been very important in cultures where a bride’s value was measured by her purity (rather than her sexual skills!) It was important for these girls to be virgins to ensure that they were not pregnant by another man’s seed, thus causing their husband to raise a child that was not genetically his.
Displaying a blood-
These days if you have a broken hymen (the site that ruptures when a girl loses her virginity) a surgery called gynoplasty can repair the “damage.” Considering that using tampons as well as participating in sports like bicycle riding and gymnastics can rupture a hymen, women in the Western world tend to regard virginity as a state of mind rather than a physical condition. If you know in your heart of hearts that you are a virgin then for most intents and purposes you are!
If a girl has foreplay and a guy’s semen gets around her vaginal area will there be a chance for her to get pregnant if she is still a virgin? Malvina, 18
Yes Malvina that can happen. Moreover infections such as herpes and crabs can be
spread with skin-
If there are cultural reasons that you must remain a virgin before marrying, then
pretty much no one will be be interested in considering that you are a pregnant technical
virgin. If such an unplanned pregnancy does occur, taking the abortion pill, RU-
I had sex with my boyfriend when I was 16. And now I am not with him. Being Armenian, I feel so disgusting like no Armenian guy is going to want me. What can I do about my negative thoughts? Will I live the rest of my life with it haunting me? Armine, 17
Armine, fortunately for you, you live in a world that is no longer monolithic. In
your midst there are many beliefs...and many practices. Moreover, Armenian culture
in America is under rapid transformation. While publicly single Armenian women are
expected to present themselves as virgins, growing numbers are not. My research
reveals that they are as sexually active as white and Hispanic young women. For
many of them, their sexual exploration occurs with non-
And you? You have several options. You can live as many young Armenian women do and keep your loss of virginity a private matter. If that feels too hypocritical you can spearhead the Armenian sexual revolution by publicly owning your past. Finally, you can step aside from the Armenian mores of virginity and endogamy (marrying one of your own) and become a 21st century metrosexual. In the world of metrosexuality, your value would be as confident skilled erotic communicator rather than a chaste Armenian. Ready?